“Greenlight, red light;” confused, he moved, and “PAOUW!” the gun went off, and he died. If there is one thing you learned from the series “Squid Game,” it is to hit the brake pedal when the traffic light is on the way to red. You stop moving. The fact that a connection with someone is unexplainable probably means it’s a red light, and you may need to pause. ‘Fake love’ often does feel like true love; otherwise, people won’t have heartbreaks so often.
True love is explainable; it’s based on facts that you know about someone, not an idea or assumption or superficial qualities. “Oh, she is fine.” Remember, “fine” doesn’t sustain a Relationship. You can easily list and talk about the qualities you like about someone you have a true connection with and those you don’t like because you know them well enough.
Otherwise, your connection to “the someone” will be unexplainable, and rightly so. You might ask, so if it isn’t love, why do I have an unexplainable connection with someone, and why do I feel this strongly? Well, do you have sex hormones? Chances are they are getting over-excited. Forgive me; I am playing with you. You are in absolute control, yeah? First, let’s talk more about having an unexplainable connection with someone.
Unexplainable Connection With Someone
An unexplainable connection with someone is not necessarily a romantic relationship; it could be any relationship. You can have an unexplainable connection with a friend, a cousin, a colleague, a boss, a neighbor that is entirely platonic.
An unexplainable connection with someone may turn out to be a positive, loving, fulfilling relationship or even genuine romantic love. A green light you could move on with. It could progress from strong infatuation and attraction to an explainable connection, true love, and a committed relationship.
An unexplainable connection with someone is a strong feeling for someone for reasons that you can’t place your finger on (not to worry, that’s why you are reading this article). It’s so effortless and pleasurable to relate with them.
And because many abusive relationships also start as a strong unexplainable connection with someone, you may need to find out if the connection you feel with someone is genuine. So do you have an unexplainable connection with someone? Let’s find out.
Signs You Have an Unexplainable Connection With Someone
Here is a list of signs that you have an unexplainable connection with someone.
#1. You Feel an Instant Connection to Them
From the first time you saw them, you knew there was something special about them. You were eager to start a conversation and get to know them. You were attracted to them for reasons you do not understand. That is what it’s like when you have an unexplainable connection with someone; you connect effortlessly. And it doesn’t matter if you just met them, you both understand each other.
#2. You Enjoy Spending Time With Them
That’s how it feels when you have an unexplainable connection with someone. You keep looking for excuses to be around them. When you are away from them, you long for when you see them and are willing to go out of your way to meet up with them.They become the first person that comes to your mind when making plans cause you always want to involve them in your activities.
#3. You Can Easily Talk With Them
Even if you are an introvert, this person is easy to talk to. You do not feel timid or have social anxiety when with them. You feel free to express yourself around them. Getting to know someone in the initial stages can be a little awkward. However, it’s not like that with someone you have an unexplainable connection with. You can have lengthy, fun, and deep conversations with them.
#4. You Feel Comfortable And Safe Around Them
When you have an unexplainable connection with someone, you feel you have known them forever. You may feel more connected with them than any other person. You feel at ease to be yourself around them, and you don’t feel like you have to water down who you are around this person. You feel comfortable sharing your past, thoughts, and emotions with them.
#5. You Become Deeply Involved With Them
When you have an unexplainable connection with someone, you are deeply involved with each other. You may have gotten to know their home, friends, and family. Whenever something good or bad happens to you, you call them first. You may seek their opinion when making decisions. You may do things together, even getting the same tattoos.
#6. You Both Have a Lot in Common.
You both have similar minds. You think in the same ways and enjoy the same things. You have identical viewpoints on matters. You may have similar expectations and goals.
So by now, you may be able to tell if you have a strong unexplainable connection with someone or not. If you do, why is that? Read on.
I Have an Unexplainable Connection With Someone: Why Do I Feel This Strongly
#1. You Are Attracted to Them Physically
Okay, you knew this was coming. I mean, it’s an undeniable reason to have an unexplainable connection with someone in a romantic sense. Their cologne controls your attention; seductive and unique to them alone. The way they groom themselves commands your respect. Their gait conveys confidence and poise. And their body features and shape fit the idea of the ideal partner you have ever wanted. Skin smooth, lips plump, chest tall, sexy abs, and well-groomed beard. And their eyes happen to be one of the seven wonders of the world. When they speak and ask you what your name is, you are lost at how to reply cause in your mind; you are already in bed with them. Yeah, you get it now.
#2. You Like Their Persona or Vibe
You may have an unexplainable connection with someone because of their charisma and vibe. Perhaps you perceive them as gentle, polite, and caring, and you admire those qualities. You may have seen how they intelligently resolved a conflict, responded to a troll on social media and you felt drawn to them. It could also be that you like their choices and preferences. This could be their choice of career, food, decor, clothing, e.t.c.
#3. They Remind You of Someone Special
The person you have an unexplainable connection with may remind you of someone in your past that you wish you could reconnect with. So if this person has similar looks, body language, and vibe with the person from your past, you will have a strong connection with them.
#4. You Feel Happy When You Are Around Them
Nobody wants to be around people who make them feel bad about themselves, so it’s only natural to have a strong connection with someone that makes you feel happy when you are around them. So you may have an unexplainable connection with someone because they make you so happy when you are together more than anyone else ever does.
#5. You May Be LHB (Lonely, Horny, And Probably Broke)
Okay, you probably didn’t see this coming; but permit me to be brutally honest with you. Imagine having no friends, no money, no sex for months or years. Then you met someone sexy with a fat bank account, giving you a little attention. Of course, you will have a strong unexplainable connection with them (with emphasis on stronggggggg). Who wouldn’t?
#6. You Like What You Have Come to Know About Them
When you spend time together getting to know this person, you like what you now know about them. Perhaps you realized you both have a lot of things in common, which strengthens the attraction you already feel for them. This may be why you feel you have an unexplainable connection with someone, but at this stage, the connection you have with them is less than unexplainable. You can now start to identify the specific traits that endear you to them, and if it’s the real deal, you will identify their weakness too; while still loving them.
What to Do When You Have An Unexplainable Connection With Someone
#1. Find Out Why You Have a Strong Connection With Them
If you have an unexplainable connection with someone, it’s important to find out the real reason you are drawn to them. Do some self-reflection. Is it a physical attraction? Is it because you are happier when you are in their company. Are you just out of a terrible relationship and are probably just hurt, broken, lonely, and they seem to be the only person giving you attention? Is it because they have something that you feel you can benefit from? Or do you truly like the person they are? Be sincere with yourself. Being able to pinpoint why you have an unexplainable connection with someone will help you make good decisions.
#2. Figure Out What You Want From Them
When you have an unexplainable connection with someone, the next thing to do is to determine what you want from them. Is it sex, friendship, companionship, a OND (one night stand), FWB (friends with benefits), or a long-term committed relationship? In other words, what are your expectations? Do you want romance? Do you want sex?
For example, if you want romantic love and marriage, don’t pretend like you want to be just friends. What if while you are waiting for them to choose to be exclusive with you, they hand you an invitation to their wedding, asking you to be one of the bridesmaids? That would be devastating. You don’t want them to think of you when they view that Julia Robert’s movie. So do not hide your feelings. There is no doubt that you expect something from someone you have an unexplainable connection with; be honest about what you want and own it.
#3. Determine If What You Want From Them is Realistic
So you have an unexplainable connection with someone, and you know what you want from them. That’s a good start. However, it doesn’t end there. You need to figure out if what you want from the relationship is realistic and attainable. Perhaps the person is married, and you want to be with them. Or they are just emotionally unavailable for the kind of relationship you want. Knowing if what you want is achievable will help you know the next steps to take when you have an unexplainable connection with someone.
#4. Ask Yourself If What You Want is Worth it
Is achieving what you want from this person worth it? For instance, suppose you are married and have an unexplainable connection with someone else. Even if the person shows interest and you feel you can have a secret relationship with them. You may need to ask yourself if it is worth it? Is it worth your marriage? Just because you have an unexplainable connection with someone and can get what you want from them doesn’t necessarily mean that you must act on your impulses. There is something called self-control. If something does not feel right, remember you don’t have to do it. However, if what you want from them is realistic, worth it, and they want the same too, why not?
#5. Pursue What You Want With Them
Once you have figured that what you want is feasible, worth it and mutual, feel free to shoot your shot; yes, enjoy your relationship with them. Connections like this are hard to find. But once you do, everything else surely falls into place. Having such a strong unexplainable connection with someone can make a person feel fulfilled, explaining why nothing else ever worked. Most people end up with people they don’t want to be with. There are a lot of situationships out there than actual mutually fulfilling relationships. Thus, it is important to do your part in sustaining the relationship. Why would anyone want to jeopardize a healthy relationship with someone special?
#6. Respect Them
While you may be eager and excited to move your relationship with the person you have an unexplainable connection with quickly, it’s best to show them respect by moving at their pace. Don’t try to rush things. If they decide that their feelings for you have changed, accept and respect their decision. There are a few things worst than unrequited love. Do you remember that Mariah Carey’s song? Yeah, you don’t want to be an obsessed stalker. Having an unexplainable connection with someone doesn’t guarantee that you will or must end up together. People change, and life doesn’t always go as we plan it.
What Not To Do When You Have An Unexplainable Connection With Someone
#1. You Do Not Want to Be Weird
It could be your first time having a strong connection with someone, and you may feel like you want to be married to them the next day after you meet them. Yeah, it’s possible for you to feel that way. Having an unexplainable connection with someone can make you feel strongly attached. You might feel like you always want to be around them, and maybe they feel the same way. But please don’t stalk them. Don’t snoop around their home or follow them around because you are curious and afraid you might lose them to someone else. Otherwise, how will I know that my writing has been successful?
#2. Don’t Be Clingy
You don’t want to choke the relationship to death with excesses of attention, demands, and conversations. You want them to be able to be themselves still. This will help you to avoid losing yourself too. You both need alone time to function independently. Understand that having a strong unexplainable connection with someone does not mean your whole life should be about them. If you do that, you may end up losing everything, including your friends, yourself, even your job.
We all yearn to have that strong connection with someone, whether platonic or romantic. The feeling is special and an experience we never want to miss. We feel happy to be around someone we can connect with and understand. Nevertheless, it’s important to find out if an unexplainable connection with someone is a genuine relationship or not. It’s important to determine the reason for the strong connection you feel and approach the situation intelligently. That’s why you have this guide to help you. Have a good one.
UNEXPLAINABLE CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE FAQS
Why Do I Have an Unexplainable Connection With Someone I Barely Know?
You may be attracted to their mysterious nature, uniqueness, looks, and persona. You may also feel strongly attracted to someone you barely know when you are weak emotionally, vulnerable, and in need of companionship.
Can a connection with someone be one-sided?
Yes. You can feel strongly connected with someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you.
How Do I Know If The Connection I Have With Someone is Genuine?
When you have a real connection with someone, you will know it. You do not doubt your feelings for them. You are both compatible and happy. They will inspire you to be a better person. The relationship will be free of abuse and enmeshment.
What if I Have a Connection With Someone But We Can’t Be Together?
Find out if you can find a solution to why you can’t be together. If you cannot resolve the issues, the best thing to do is to accept the loss and move on.