Leaving your husband is not a simple deal. It’s not something that should be done on a whim without giving major thought to it. If you plan to leave your husband, you should make sure your reasons are valid and it’s not a decision just made in the heat of the moment. Life-changing decisions are not one to be made indecisively. You have to be prepared emotionally, financially, logistically and psychologically for the road ahead. You must have a strategy to make sure leaving the marriage doesn’t later become the biggest mistake of your life.
If you are planning on leaving your husband, it means you’ve entertained the thoughts over and over again in your mind. Here are some reasons why you could think of leaving your husband;
1) Lack of Intimacy
Apart from the fact that women are naturally emotional beings, humans, in general, need connections. They want to be with people and have a sort of personal intimacy with those they love. So, if you are planning on leaving your husband, this could be one of the major reasons. You may no longer feel drawn to him. Chances are your sexual life is in ruins. Both of you no longer spend time together. You no longer have this feeling of happiness when you know he would soon return from work. Both of you may now feel like strangers to yourself.
Abuse of any kind is disastrous to the mental health of the person being abused over time. Whether it be emotional, verbal, physical or sexual abuse, it doesn’t change the fact that it is still abuse. There is never a good justification for abusing your partner. If your husband abuses you in any capacity, then it may be your reason for wanting to leave. If he hits you every time in the midst of an argument, tries to make you feel less occasionally and also, rapes you or forces you to engage in some sexual stuff you aren’t exactly comfortable with, then you have a legit reason for wanting to leave him.
Especially, when you’ve talked to him a countless times and make no effort to change still. Many persons have died or have their entire lives scarred just from remaining in abusive marriages; you don’t want to be added to the numbers.
Infidelity usually is accompanied by smaller issues such as lack of respect and breakage of trust. If your husband is a chronic cheat, and even worse, does it without hiding it, it simply means he no longer has respect for you as a wife. This creates enmity and lack of trust in the relationship. It’s no news that when the trust in a marriage is broken, there’s practically nothing left there again. There would be no peace, contentment or happiness. It would seem the days are spent in forbearance, which shouldn’t be.
HOW TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND WITH NO MONEY
If you’ve ever conceived thoughts of divorcing your husband and leaving him with literally nothing, then it means, you may have gone through one hell of a marriage ordeal. You may have been abused, cheated upon and may have had to endure lies, and pains for a long time. So, it’s normal for you to want revenge. It’s okay to think of paying him back in his own coins, but you need to understand that the court doesn’t work based on your emotions. You need to put your emotions aside, get busy with strategic plans. Hiring the best lawyer and be mentally prepared to leave your husband with nothing, taking everything after the divorce.
Nevertheless, it would pay to think it through again. Try to sit down, calm down and go over the plans again. Granted, your husband wasn’t the best in the world, and he was cruel to you, but will taking everything make you eventually happy? Would it not be a case of expended emotions, time and energy if, at the end of your revenge, you still end up crying? Apart from the emotions, do you think you have the financial capability to maintain of all the assets and properties you plan on confiscating? You need to understand that ‘everything’ gotten in a state of anger may not literally be necessary for building a happy future for you. Nothing should stand in the way of your future happiness and peace of mind.
HOW TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND WHEN YOU STILL LOVE HIM
Leaving someone you love is not an easy thing to do. It seems each time you conceive the thought, you eventually put it away because you feel so much pain that you can’t explain and you are scared if you would be able to continue living without that person.
Planning to leave your husband when you still love him so much means you are in a toxic relationship. You love him but he doesn’t respect you, your views or your ideas. He tends to become violent in between arguments and then returns to apologize afterwards. You’ve been talking to him and praying about a change, yet it seems the change you seek isn’t anywhere nearby. The thing is that if you don’t decide to leave him soon enough, you may not be around to witness that change you’ve been hoping for. Then you should come to the realization that, sometimes, love is never enough!
You must learn to let go and accept that you deserve better
There is no way you can meet the right person if you keep holding on to the wrong person. Sometimes, the fear of being alone makes us ready to accept any negative treatment, despite the fact that we don’t deserve it. People keep holding on to the illusion of change, change that didn’t come even when you stayed together for six years. You just have to wake up to the truth and realize that you have stuck with him and all the negativity, despite the fact that you love him, for the rest of your life. Can you keep up with that? Cry if you need to. It hurts deeply, that’s a given.
Seeing someone you love treating you badly, and not reciprocating your love hurts as much as broken bones, if not even more. Cry all you want, but afterwards, make that decision to leave without looking back, and go to where you would be appreciated, loved and respected.
HOW TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND WHEN YOU HAVE A CHILD
Children complicate issues in decisions of divorce. Your child should be your first consideration when the thought of divorce springs up. There is no such thing as an easy divorce, especially when children are involved.
When planning on leaving your husband when you have a child, you need to communicate with your child. Make him understand why divorce is important. Be open with your kids, they are the ones who get affected the most here, having to shuffle in between parents. You should also put into consideration who gets custody of your child. Leaving your husband doesn’t mean the child should also leave his father. The child should be with the parent who is more responsible and can handle their well-being. Understand that you can’t deny your husband of having access to his child unless there is a cogent reason for it like alcohol and abuse.
Talk about things like house ownership, your child’s education and how to split expenses with regards to raising your child up, with your spouse. Your child doesn’t need to be at the receiving end of the brutality of your divorce.
HOW TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIM
There’s no divorce without emotional baggage. Even if your husband wasn’t the best that there is, it doesn’t stop him from hurting. We are humans. It also depends on the reasons for the divorce. If your divorce reason is stemming majorly from a lack of Intimacy that both or one of you no longer feels, then it’s important you talk to your spouse. Both of you should come to an agreement before parting ways. It doesn’t stop the hurting but it could reduce the guilt of the marriage falling apart.
Most times, what hurts are the unspoken words. If your reason for divorce is not lack of Intimacy but abuse, then I can assure you, that it’s no longer a question of who’s hurting, but moving as fast away as you can to save yourself. Your husband would definitely try to convince you that he’s a changed person, but what you should do is put yourself first. Don’t consider his hurt and save your life because most times, abusers don’t change.
HOW TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND WHEN YOU HAVE NO MONEY
One of the steps to take when planning a divorce, and you have no money with you is finding something to do. Start a side job, register for work, and do something to give you a steady inflow of cash, no matter how small it may be. The truth is, you would have to face life squarely and with expenses, alone again. You have to be prepared for it.
Set a budget for the amount you want to achieve. Sell items not needed if need be. You can also reach out to family and friends for help because this is a trying time of your life. You need money to go through the processes of divorce, even getting a lawyer is quite expensive, not to talk of your life after the divorce. Ineffective planning may end you up in poverty. Try to get as many sources of income as are necessary and feasible.
The end goal of every divorce is happiness because you have been separated from whatever has been causing you frustration. Before you go through the processes of divorce, make sure that goal would be met afterwards, if not, then the divorce wasn’t necessary.
HOW TO LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND FAQS
How do I know I want to leave my husband?
You will know you want to leave your husband when these signs keep reoccurring. The signs that you want or need your husband are:
You are a victim of abuse.
You do not trust your spouse anymore.
There is a lack of intimacy in the relationship.
Your spouse is not making any effort to improve the relationship.
How do I leave my husband with no money?
You can leave your husband with no money with strategic plans. Getting a good lawyer and make your intentions known to the lawyer that you want to leave your husband with no money.
How do you when a marriage is over?
If you’re no longer feeling happy with your spouse. You no longer spend long time together, he or she will rather spend all their time at work, with their friends, or online. And it’s a relief when both of you are not with each other.
How do you leave your husband when you have kids?
1: Explain what is going on with your kids.
2: Come to terms with your husband.
3: Get a schedule.
4: Find some forgiveness.
Is leaving my husband the best decision?
Leaving your husband is your decision to make and before making this big decision, you need to have given it thorough thought. Then will you know if leaving your husband is the best decision?