Even the toughest people need reassurance from time to time. Reassurance simply is a process of removing doubt from someone’s mind that is, making them less afraid. However, different people are reassured in different ways like emotional support, words, and so on.
REASSURANCE IN A RELATIONSHIP
The need for constant reassurance is a very mundane thing every now and then. It gives us this sense of comfort and security. But it becomes a problem if the reassurance doesn’t assure us.
Then it becomes a constant pattern with the same questions over and over and it doesn’t always seem to calm you. But we eventually discover that this kind of search is in vain. The satisfaction we need, and the consistent demand for aid are fruitless.
HOW TO GIVE ASSURANCE IN A RELATIONSHIP (TO MY GIRLFRIEND)
#1. Tell her she is the only one:
Girls love to hear how those words. “You’re my star”, “You are very special to me”…
#2. Shower her with gifts:
Who doesn’t like a little pampering? She’s your babe so you should know the little things she loves. Flowers, pieces of jewelry or even paying for her spa time.
#3. Reassure her of her beauty:
She’s beautiful, right? Well, why don’t you just tell her that, we all know she wants to hear it.
Communication is key. Girls love to hear those magical words. For a guy, it’s all about action but for a lady, it’s all about those soothing words.
#5. Reassure her of your future together:
Girls love when you tell them how you want to have kids with them and be the mother of your unborn kids. Cheesy, I know but what can I say, it just makes us feel safe.
#6. Notice little things about her:
One of most girls’ fetishes is when their man can actually notice those little things. Like about her new nails done or those little things she does for you. Girls really love that.
HOW TO GIVE ASSURANCE IN A RELATIONSHIP (TO MY BOYFRIEND)
Guys don’t really love easy and unlike the ladies don’t need constant reassurance. But still, if you want to go out for him you should probably;
#1. Be yourself:
To be yourself around him actually reassures him that you can have a future together because nothing seems forced. This is the natural flow going on.
#2. Be kind to his friends:
This actually makes him feel safer around you. Guys are not really into the cheesy assurance thing.
#3. Make him laugh:
Why don’t you try to make him smile with soothing words?
•I’m Happy to be with you.
•You’re exactly what I need.
•I Trust You.
•You’re going to be a Great Dad.
•I’m Sorry, I Was Wrong. Guys love it to get a heartfelt apology when their bae is wrong. It shows them you really care about their feelings.
HOW TO ASK FOR REASSURANCE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Men tend to misunderstand a woman’s need for reassurance interpreting it as a complaint that he’s not a good enough partner. Because they don’t understand the actual reason women need reassurance, men don’t automatically support that need. Research shows that women’s brains are wired emotionally. They always want to feel that emotional support, safety, and of course reassurance.
There are ways to actually ask for reassurance without necessarily asking directly in simple steps in general. They include;
1. Give him those words he’s dying to hear.
2. Always trust in his words no matter how he says them. Although, your man might not be the “touchy-feely” type when he reassures you take him at his word even if he’s a little cold when talking.
3. Ask for reassurance in his language. A man’s first love language is not even words at all but actions. Guys love actions rather than words. You know him best so you know what to do to get him to talk.
Reassurance in a Relationship FAQ’s
What is it called when someone needs constant reassurance?
One of the most difficult aspects of engaging with someone who has obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) for family and friends is the excessive reassurance-seeking that can often accompany the disease.
Is asking for reassurance bad?
If you require reassuring presence or affirmation, it does not imply that you are insecure; it simply indicates that you are human. It takes bravery to reach out and ask for help when it is needed. You may start a conversation by saying, “I’m feeling the need for some reassurance” (or support).
What makes a woman insecure in a relationship?
A lack of self-love is frequently the root cause of insecurities in a relationship. If one partner harbors damaging limiting ideas, such as fear of failure or the belief that they do not deserve love, they will be unable to trust entirely – and trust is the core of any relationship.