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7+ Important Questions to Ask Before Marriage in 2022 (Updated)

7+ Important Questions to Ask Before Marriage in 2022 (Updated)
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A popular concept of marriage in recent times has been hung on meeting someone you like, dating for a year or two, and boom!!! you get married. Yea, every romantic relationship should lead to marriage but not before covering all your bases by asking the right questions.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not against quick marriages because even long-term pre-marriage relationships still get off on the wrong set of ideas.

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Marriage, we all know is a lifetime commitment so it wouldn’t hurt to ensure you are going in with all the information you would need to make it a success -short-term or long-term regardless.

Well, true, some marriages may have sailed through without having to deal with these, but have you ever wondered why divorces are currently a household term in marriages across the globe?

The answer is simple. They neglected to ask some important questions before jumping or strolling into marriage. They discovered they could not handle some shocking revelations about their partners.

So they either have to live with the regret of not asking these questions or using the door.

However, while this post may not totally guarantee if your marriage works or not, it sure increases the odds. Asking building constructive conversations around the questions outlined in this post helps you get the relevant pieces of information you would need to ensure a successful marriage.

Listed below are ten (10) of them;

Important Questions to Ask Before Marriage

What is Your Biggest Fear?

Marriage goes beyond sharing your dreams, ambitions, and hopes. To ensure a balance you will also need to share and understand your fears, struggle, and regrets. This sure is usually a tough nut to crack but a marriage without this information is 100% unpredictable. You basically do not know what to expect or how your partner would react when confronted with their fears.

So, trust me, you literally need to know what makes them tick. And then figure out ways to deal with them together.

According to Lee, a marriage therapist, “There’s a lot of folks where they grew up in families where marriage was not a positive thing.” 

“Be able to have honest conversations around that. Nurture and be considerate of those fears and address them together.”

What are your Deal Breakers?

Deal Breakers range from personal decisions like whether or not you want children, the kind of belief systems you want them to grow up with, the number of children to life goals like projects you want to pursue, where you want to live, career goals, and so on.

Whichever is your partner’s, this is something you want to know. If they fit together, Lucky you!!! However, watch out for conflicts and sort them out.

On the flip side, a common mistake most couples make is thinking their partners will be able to look past these factors. As matter of fact, they should in the name of love.

Well, what they fail to realize is that the forces behind deal breakers could easily compete with those behind love anytime.

Yea, I just heard you mutter, “ then it wasn’t true love.” “Love is about sacrifices.”

True, but a better approach would be to discuss them and reach a compromise. It’s an exhilarating feeling knowing that you’re both sacrificing and compromising to ensure the best possible outcome.

What Are Your Financial Goals?

You could rank this as the most important question on the list considering its relevance. Money has been labeled the number one source of stress in relationships and marriages. So you would not be out of place if you prioritized money above every other item you need to tick on your marriage checklist.

Asking about financial goals and how you hope to achieve them will help your partners stay accountable to you. It helps you monitor their financial progress and put them in line if need be.

And most of all, it will help you decide if you are willing to put up your partner regardless of their present financial state.

However, there are other financial related questions like;

How do you expect to share the expenses? Do you have gender-based financial expectations? Will we merge our accounts? How will we prioritize spending?

How Do We Deal With our In-Laws?

Research shows that quite a number of individuals in marriage are still attached to their first families. They literally yearn to feel the way they felt as kids. So to achieve this they constantly try to please them at any given opportunity.

Taking this into -perspective, you will agree with me how vital it is to set boundaries with in-laws.

Don’t get me wrong, family is priority but they join the extended category immediately after marriage. So questions like;

“If we’re married, how do you plan on prioritizing our relationship?” “If your parent wants something and I want something else, how would you approach that? What are your values around prioritizing our new family as a married couple? How much time do you see us spending with your family?” 

should be in order.

What is your Communication Style?

Basically, everyone possesses a peculiar style of communication that best helps them to express their feelings. Seeing how crucial communication is in every relationship, understanding your partner’s communication style should be a top priority. You do not want to have to deal with wrongly interpreting signals which may seem true on the surface but with a different interpretation underneath.

Most people usually need time to think things over, others speak directly from emotions and regret it later while others communicate better in writing.

Bottom line is, a better understanding of your partner’s communication style will trigger a more constructive response when issues arise.

How Can I Help When You are Stressed?

A common reaction that comes with stress is trying to not feel alone or to feel pampered. In reality though, not everyone is wired that way.

You should be certain on the category to find your partner when stress comes along. The category of people who need space, those who need reassurances, or those who respond better to pep talks

For the most part, we may not be able to fully communicate their needs when stressed but the knowledge of how you can help is a step in the right direction.

What Are Your Sex Expectations?

As odd as this may sound to some folks -particularly the very religious ones- it’s an aspect of marriage that cannot be overlooked. You cannot overlook the fact that deep down, you’ve got these fantasies about sex you want to explore in marriage.

There are expectations you want to be fulfilled, so to ignore this is to ignore a vital aspect of marriage. You also want to know how frequent sexual activities will be, while assuring each other that less activity will have nothing to do with a loss of interest.

What Does Marriage Mean to You?

Marriage hardly means the same thing to everyone out there. Realizing this early enough helps you clear the air around the different perceptions people have.

A good number of people either take it as an all-consuming partnership, legal agreement, or obligation. These perceptions about marriage form the bedrock of how events would play out in the course of your marriage.

So ensure that talking about them is one of your priorities. This will avoid scenarios where either one of you feels like your needs or expectations did not pan out as planned.

Do You Want Children and What Would We Do if We Struggle to Get Pregnant?

This feels like a popular question couples tend to deal with before marriage, but in reality, that’s not usually the case, particularly how to deal with struggling to get pregnant.

Couples hardly go over options they should consider in the event that they struggle to get pregnant. And that’s because options like IVF and adoption may sound too challenging due to a number of reasons.

Well, in the end, they become real options but half the time, only one partner wants to go through with the process.

I guess you now see reasons why it should be sorted out from the get-go. A contingency plan is needed.

What Are Your Expectations Around Childcare and Parenting?

Now that you may have decided on whether or not you want children, and how many, all that’s left is the decision on how to raise them.

Taking a cue from Lee’s suggestions, the following questions should be asked;

“If we have children, what are your expectations around child care and parenting? Do you have any gender-based expectations? Are you a feminist? Which is your ideal situation—do we both work and take care of the kids? Would you want to stay at home?”

A perfect addition to this will be also to find out how each partner was raised, talking about likes and dislikes.

Conclusion

You may not be able to directly control whether or not your marriage leads to a divorce. What you can do, is ensure your marriage has the best chance at thriving and surviving.

Discussing questions on this post automatically increases that chance exponentially. Conversations around these questions before marriage deal with the big issues, needs, wants and expectations that may arise.

You can, however, reach out in the comment section for professional advice.

Questions to Ask Before Marriage FAQs

What are good intimate questions?

The following are categorized under good intimate questions;

  • What is something you have always wanted to tell me but couldn’t?
  • What is the biggest thing you miss about me now?
  • Where do you like me to kiss you?
  • When was the time you’ve felt the closest to me?
  • The next time we are together, what is one thing you’d like me to do to you?

What are the 3 most important things in a marriage?

Three primary elements emerged from statistics: communication, knowledge, and commitment.

What are the couple challenge questions?

The following are basic couple challenge questions?

  • Who is more romantic?
  • Who cooks better?
  • Who snores?
  • Who spends more money?
  • Who is bad at karaoke?
  • Who apologizes first in an argument?
  • Who is the funny one?
  • Who can make fun of themselves?

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