Asking someone to be your girlfriend can be nerve-racking and awkward. It can lead to frustration sometimes because you are freaking out about what to do, what to say, and how to do it, especially if you want to go the cute way and have her fall hard for you. Relax, take a deep breath. You just have to know the right words, spot, and time to take action.
Every girl is unique, you have to understand her uniqueness and work with it. However, here are some tips to help you ask the girl of your dreams to be your girlfriend but before proceeding to ask the question, we have some important advice for you:
- Be clear in your conversation.
- Do not be vague. Let her know how you feel.
- Timing is key. Know when and when not to ask the question.
- Be simple.
- Be sincere.
HOW TO ASK SOMEONE TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND OVER TEXT
Asking a girl out over text can be termed old-fashioned but thanks to technology, tons of things can be achieved without physical contact. For example: Asking someone to be your girlfriend.
It might not be seen as the best way to get it done but communication through text can be anxiety relieving. Some men prefer text because it saves them from personal encounters and also from possible rejection.
Nevertheless, this does not mean he doesn’t value you or love you. Here are some tips to guide you in asking a girl out over text.
Open doors with a light and positive text:
Your initial text should create a positive synchronization between the both of you. You can’t just start the text with “Will you be my girlfriend?” or “I really like you and I would love for us to be a couple?” this is really vague. You can begin the conversation with a fun memory of you guys together or similar attributes you two have in common. For example: “I can never forget that one time we went to the zoo to see the animals and the monkey got out of its cage to pursue people.” This here has created a positive and light door for further conversations.
Keep the conversation going:
You can utilize this means to know more about her, her perspective on things, and know the rate at which she really likes you. You keep on engaging her in conversation and not forgetting your goal of the text. Leveraging on the positivity and nature of the text you can now ask the question.
Ask her to be your girlfriend:
The time has come for you to finally pop the question. You guys have established a good conversation and you know it’s time to ask the question. You should add a little touch to make it exciting not the usual “Will you be my girlfriend?”. For example: “You’ve been my friend for a while and I will like to take things to the next level with you. I will be the happiest man in the world if you grace me with the title of being your boyfriend, will you be my girlfriend?” After asking the question you can let her know if she needs time to answer she can have it and you’ll be waiting for her right here.
Although communicating via text can be misinterpreted due to lack of tone which is why you need to be simple and clear.
HOW TO ASK SOMEONE TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND LONG-DISTANCE
Long-distance relationship (LDR) can be quite different from the regular relationship. It can be great at the beginning but become more challenging as time elapse but hey, don’t fret. Here are some tips to guide you through the process.
- To begin with, you need to know the person to an extent either by being friends or by being chat buddies then proceed to know each other better. Getting to know someone who lives in a different place from yours can be quite exciting.
- You have to find out if your goals and values are in alignment with each other. If yes, you guys have a lot in common this is an optimistic sign.
- Ask her to virtual dates; You guys can watch the same movie at the same time on any of the apps like Netflix or Hulu and share your experiences. You can also create a restaurant-like scene where you guys share the same recipe, cook, and eat together via Skype, Zoom, or FaceTime while chatting in between.
- Ask for their insight on long-distance relationships. If you both have the same take (positive) on long-distance relationships this is good progress.
- Ask how they feel about you. If you both feel the same way about each other. You can now proceed to pop the question.
You can ask via text or FaceTime but ensure you guys make plans for the possibilities to come such as visitations, constant communications and eventually moving in together.
In conclusion, long-distance relationship is always worth the try, don’t let distance be a barrier to your happiness.
15 ROMANTIC WAYS TO ASK SOMEONE TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND
1. Take her out on a date.
Ask her out on a date, to spice things up a bit you can take her to one of her favorite places as this will leave an impression on her that you truly care about her. On the drive back home, you can pop the question ‘Will you be my girlfriend?’
2. Use scavenger hunt.
For each clue, she finds back it up with a romantic gift such as flowers, chocolates, little notes expressing how you admire her, and then the last clue should contain the question. Of course, she will appreciate this.
3. Write love letters.
You need to be creative. Write her a love letter every day for a week starting from Monday expressing how you feel. You can send it to her workplace or school or even slip it into her room. She will subconsciously get into it and expect it each day. On the last day which may be on a Sunday end the love letter with the question.
4. Express your intention through poetry.
It does not necessarily have to be written by you. It can be a poem you found but make sure it conveys your desire to her. Pop the question using a literary piece. For example; ‘In an endless garden of flowers I will always pick you. Will you be my girlfriend?’
5. Make the move using music.
Play her favorite song or play a song sung by her favorite artist that will help you articulate what you cannot say yourself. Let her know the lyrics convey what you feel for her.
6. Ask her out using food.
Most girls love food, you can leverage this by preparing a homemade dinner and inviting her over or you can take her to a restaurant. After dinner, you can ask her out. If it comes out positive, you can crown the dinner with watching a movie.
7. Set up a romantic picnic in your garden.
This might seem old-fashioned but is still one of the best ways to ask a girl out. Sitting in the garden with a picnic basket filled with a variety of food and a touch of sunshine sets the mood right. Don’t forget the flowers too! After eating, ask if she will love to be your girlfriend.
8. Have a life-size teddy bear with your voice recording inside asking her to be yours.
If you are the anxious type, you can get a teddy bear and record your voice inside letting her know how you feel and your intention.
9. Play scrabble with her.
Spending the day indoors can be relaxing and healthy, particularly when playing games. You can ask her to be your girl while playing scrabble by spelling out ‘Be Mine’ using the scrabble tiles. Then you can proceed to let her know how you feel about her.
10. Do it on her birthday.
Asking her out on her birthday is really romantic. First, you will leave an impression on her that you remembered her birthday and second, it will always mark a day for both of you, an anniversary.
11. Bake her something.
Ask for help anywhere you can. Watch YouTube, ask your mom or friend for assistance. A girl will definitely love this cute idea of baking something. It is creative. You can bake a cookie or a cake saying ‘Will you be my girlfriend?’
12. Write it down somewhere she doesn’t expect.
You can write in the mirror, on snow, on the sand, anywhere. It is a super romantic way to ask a girl out. Especially when she was not there when you wrote it. You can blindfold her till you guys get there and she will love it.
13. Hack her phone.
Take her phone when she is not looking and change your name on her contact list to ‘Will you be my girlfriend?’ Wait for her to call or wait for her to go away so you can call her. She will fall for this move really hard.
14. Make her a handcrafted gift.
It is all about creativity, you do not have to be skilled but if you are, then that is a plus for you. You can create a knitted bracelet for her containing the word ‘I like you, and I want you to be my girlfriend.’ Surely, she will love the gift more because it is created with your own two hands.
15. Do a T-shirt proposal.
This is a cool romantic way to ask someone to be your girlfriend. You can take her out to see a movie or to a park, anywhere that will excite her. Cover up the customized shirt with a jacket or a sweater and when the atmosphere is right, take off the jacket. Boom! She sees the question.
HOW TO ASK SOMEONE TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND FAQS
Why do I keep having anxiety when I want to ask a girl out physically?
Asking a girl can cause anxiety especially if you are the shy type but you can use another method which is asking her out via text message. This does not reduce how you feel for her but it helps prevent personal encounters.
Is long-distance relationship worth it?
Long-distance relationship is worth it depending on you and your partner. You have to share the same value and communicate more often to sustain the relationship.
What is the sweetest way to ask a girl out?
You can ask a girl out in different ways;
By taking her to her favorite location.
By involving her friends.
By writing letters.
How do I know when to ask a girl out?
You will know the time is right when you guys are so used to each other and can’t do without communicating with each other in a day. The bond keeps getting stronger daily and you can tell she likes you enough to want you to be her boyfriend.
What if I ask her out and she says no?
Do not worry about her saying no but be focused on the positivity of the situation and if eventually, she says no, end it with her on a good note.