• Buy From Us
  • Write for Us
  • Contact Us
  • About Us
Tuesday, February 7, 2023
The-Soul Mate
No Result
View All Result
  • Home
  • Products
  • Family and parenting
  • Friendship
    • Friendship Quotes
    • Happiness Quote
    • Love Quotes
  • Marriage
  • Therapy
  • Personal Development
  • Love
  • Intimacy
  • Advice
    • Relationship Guide
  • Home
  • Products
  • Family and parenting
  • Friendship
    • Friendship Quotes
    • Happiness Quote
    • Love Quotes
  • Marriage
  • Therapy
  • Personal Development
  • Love
  • Intimacy
  • Advice
    • Relationship Guide
No Result
View All Result
Morning News
No Result
View All Result
Home THERAPY

INSECURE ATTACHMENT STYLES: How to Cope & Deal With It, Updated!!!

Insecure attachment style

conflict and emotional stress in young people couple relationship outdoors

5.8k
SHARES
8.5k
VIEWS
Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Research has shown that our attachment styles are set in early childhood and persist throughout our lifetime. The patterns are either secure or insecure. If a child grows up with consistency, reliability, and safety, they will likely have a secure style of attachment.
On the other hand, anyone with insecure attachment styles will generally have trouble emotionally connecting with other people.

Let’s take a quick look at some insecure attachment styles out there and how to deal with them.

READ ALSO

HOW TO HELP YOUR PARTNER WITH DEPRESSION: 21 Strategies & Tips that Work

SIGNS OF MANIPULATION: 15+ Signs of Manipulation in Relationships & What to Do

INSECURE ATTACHMENT STYLES

There are four major types of attachment styles but only three make up the insecure attachment style. The four major types of attachment styles are;
1. Secure Attachment Style
2. Avoidant attachment style
3. Ambivalent or anxious attachment style
4. Disorganized attachment style


However, the best attachment style is the secure attachment style. Excluding the secure attachment style, the other three listed all fall under the insecure attachment style.

#1. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE:

An avoidant attachment style is formed in babies and children when parents are always emotionally unavailable. We often crave that connection with our parents. Yet, we quickly learn to suppress our outward displays of emotion when this connection is not there. People, who have this particular attachment style have a dismissive attitude, always shun intimacy, and they absolutely hate reaching out.

#2. AMBIVALENT OR ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT STYLE:

Like all attachment styles, this can grow and nurture from childhood to adulthood. A child who has an anxious attachment toward their parents may seem notably anxious when separated from them.
Basically, in adulthood, someone who has an anxious attachment may need constant reassurance and affection from their partner. They may also have trouble being alone or single.
As an adult, you’d have;
a. Difficulty trusting others
b. Feel low self-worth
c. Constant fear of abandonment.
Generally, they can appear “clingy” or “needy” because they require constant validation.

#3. DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT STYLE:

Typically, anyone with a disorganized attachment style experiences or had previously experienced childhood trauma or extreme inconsistency. In general, this person is unable to deal with the world.
Some of the signs you’d likely experience under this insecure attachment style is;
a. Depression
b. Anxiety
c. Poor self-image and self-hatred

INSECURE ATTACHMENT STYLES IN ADULTS

If a person develops an insecure style of attachment, it can take one of three forms: avoidant, ambivalent or anxious, and disorganized. It is a lot harder to handle in adults than in kids. Why? Well, because as an adult, the experiences and childhood traumas aren’t fresh, unlike a kid who doesn’t necessarily have his bearings. What I’m trying to say is that the issues can be trashed easier in kids because they are younger. But harder in adults because it’s like a scar, doesn’t seem to hurt much but the marks are still visible. Now, how do you deal with an insecure attachment style?


HOW TO DEAL WITH INSECURE ATTACHMENT STYLES

a. Find a partner who has a secure attachment style:

This is always quite helpful. Because he or she doesn’t share your insecurities even though they might understand it. Although, there might be regular disagreements at first. But, in the end, you’d learn from your stable partner that having a secure attachment style is not too difficult. Remember the saying opposites attract, here it’s going to work its magic.

b. Purposefully practice being emotionally intimate and vulnerable:

Like the avoidant attachment style, they do not like emotional or physical intimacy. This however can help them learn how to be more stable and secure.

c. Work on emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness skills through therapy:

A sure way to deal with an insecure attachment style is to work on stabilizing your emotions. The disorganized and anxious attachment styles are always confused and needy. Basically, their emotions are always in flux. This is going to teach them balance and stability in general.

HOW TO COPE WITH INSECURE ATTACHMENT STYLES

You don’t have to continually be a victim of your past. Trust me, you won’t be able to grow or change in that way. So the bigger question is, “how do I cope with this attachment style, it’s ruining my life.” It can be quite difficult.

#1. Therapy:

Therapy always seems to take the edge off. Especially when the psychotherapist is very good. He or she understands you and encourages you to see the best in people and generally understand people better. When you undergo intensive psychotherapy, your therapist helps you;
a. Identify past traumas so you can deal with them.
b. Recognize where their behaviors so you move on forward in life.
c. See the world in a more positive light.
d. Learn how to form a healthy and secure attachment style.

#2. Reconcile with childhood experiences:

You can also resolve this in therapy. You can’t move on without revisiting your past and reconciling with these experiences that caused you this attachment style in the first place. It’s the first step to coping with an insecure attachment style.

Insecure Attachment Style FAQ’s

What is the most difficult attachment style?

The disordered attachment style is the most difficult sort of insecure connection. It is frequently evident in adults who were physically, verbally, or sexually abused as children.

Can trauma change your attachment style?

Trauma has the capacity to change our attachment style. But it’s not just unpleasant experiences that might alter our attachment to people. Those with insecure attachment who join into stable partnerships as adults can learn to become securely connected as well.

What triggers anxious attachment?

The majority of behaviors related to anxious attachment are motivated by insecurity and worries of rejection or abandonment. These issues may be the result of past relationship trauma or simply deep-seated fears). While insecure attachment is frequently associated with trauma, it could just be an attachment preference.

Related

Related Posts

How to help your partner in depression
THERAPY

HOW TO HELP YOUR PARTNER WITH DEPRESSION: 21 Strategies & Tips that Work

4th February 2023
Signs of manipulation
THERAPY

SIGNS OF MANIPULATION: 15+ Signs of Manipulation in Relationships & What to Do

21st January 2023
EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE
THERAPY

EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE: Why Am I So Emotionally Unstable?

21st January 2023
LIFE COACH VS THERAPIST
THERAPY

LIFE COACH VS THERAPIST: Can a Therapist be a Life Coach? (Detailed Comparison)

17th January 2023
SEX THERAPY EXERCISES
THERAPY

SEX THERAPY EXERCISES for Couples & All You Should Know

16th January 2023
SERIAL CHEATERS PERSONALITY DISORDER
THERAPY

SERIAL CHEATERS PERSONALITY DISORDER: All You Should Know

16th January 2023
Next Post
Fear of Intimacy

FEAR OF INTIMACY: OVERVIEW, TEST, SIGNS & HOW TO OVERCOME IT!!!

Water Signs

WATER SIGNS: DEFINITION, TRAITS & HOW TO FIND BALANCE

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

POPULAR NEWS

Wife Cheating Movies

WIFE CHEATING MOVIES: 20+ Movies of All Time (+ Netflix Picks)

19th January 2023
Gay or bisexual husbands

10 WARNING SIGNS YOUR HUSBAND IS GAY OR BISEXUAL (+ DETAILED GUIDE)

14th April 2022
Abusive husband

ABUSIVE HUSBAND: Signs & How to Deal with Emotional, Mental & Verbal Abuse

19th January 2023
paragraphs for your boyfriend

PARAGRAPHS FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND: 71+ Sweet Paragraphs For Him

14th April 2022
NEW THINGS TO TRY IN BED

NEW THINGS TO TRY IN BED: 31+ Amazing and Fun Ideas for Couples in 2023

20th January 2023

EDITOR'S PICK

Taken for granted in relationship

TAKEN FOR GRANTED IN RELATIONSHIP: Top Signs & What to Do!!!

2nd September 2022
BEING VULNERABLE

BEING VULNERABLE: Meaning, Quotes, Importance & How-to Guide

10th January 2023
Mental Abuse

MENTAL ABUSE IN RELATIONSHIPS: What You Should Know

6th February 2023
LOVE YOURSELF

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF: 15+ Tips to Get Back on Your Feet

19th January 2022

About Us

We bring you the best relationship guide, to connect, expose and help explore your quest for better relationship

  • Home
  • Shop
  • About Us
  • Contact Us
  • Write for Us

Legals

  • Disclaimer
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms & Condition

Follow us

  • Disclaimer
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms & Condition

© 2022 Best Relationship Guide - Best Relationship Guide by The Soul MAte.

No Result
View All Result
  • Home
  • Products
  • Family and parenting
  • Friendship
    • Friendship Quotes
    • Happiness Quote
    • Love Quotes
  • Marriage
  • Therapy
  • Personal Development
  • Love
  • Intimacy
  • Advice
    • Relationship Guide

© 2022 Best Relationship Guide - Best Relationship Guide by The Soul MAte.

en English
ar Arabiczh-CN Chinese (Simplified)nl Dutchen Englishfr Frenchde Germanit Italianpt Portugueseru Russianes Spanish