“Is he the one?” “Have I finally found him?” “Is he my soulmate?”
Are these questions you are asking yourself?
Conversations flow easily between you two, and when you touch each other…
Jeez.. Let’s say that, like in the northern hemisphere, the spark explodes like a superbolt.
Does this imply that you two are destined to stay together forever? Or will it only end up becoming another fling?
It can be challenging at first to distinguish between a passing crush and a soulmate bond.
After all, they both trigger strong feelings, and a flurry of happy neurotransmitters goes off in the brain.
However, when it comes down to it, though, a soulmate connection is a unique form of relationship that, if you’re lucky, you’ll only ever have once or twice in your lifetime.
As a woman, I’ve spent a long time studying soulmate connections through experience and research. Over that time, I’ve been able to identify the 31+ determining markers that a guy is your true soulmate.
To determine whether your partner is truly your “one and only,” all you need to do is look through this list.
Key Takeaways
- The term “soulmate” means a special attraction, understanding, or powerful bond that exists between one person and another.
- When you meet “The One”, you just know it. You’re happier, more confident and at peace.
- Your Soulmate is your BFF (Best Friend Forever).
What Does the Word “Soulmate” Mean?
Firstly, we must clarify what a “soulmate” actually is before we get started.
After all, a lot of people have the wrong idea about it, and some don’t even think it exists.
According to a study done by Hack Spirit, when they asked their 34,142 email list members if they believed in soulmates, 68% of them replied yes, 20% said no, and 12% were not sure.
The unexpected outcome? Yes, responses were more common from men (70% to 66%).
You really can’t hold those who declined to blame. It is extremely unlikely to discover the “one person” you are destined to be within a world full of billions of individuals.
Actually, after doing the math, the scientists at Bustle discovered that the probability of finding “the one” is 1 in 10,000 or 0.1%.
Not very good chances, do you think?
However, bear the following in mind:
There isn’t just one person out there who is meant to be your soulmate. Nope.
A soulmate connection is exactly that—someone with whom you feel an intense, almost inexplicable spiritual connection—who could be your best friend or romantic partner.
“The term “soulmate” implies a special attraction, understanding, or powerful bond that exists between one person and another,” writes Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D. in Psychology Today.
Do you and your partner have this deep connection, then? Let’s find out.
These 35 Signs show he’s your soul mate:
#1. You Have a Gut Feeling About It.
It’s no secret that women are more emotionally aware than men.
There’s a good probability that this guy is your soulmate if you have a gut feeling that you were intended to be with him.
I realise this is a ridiculous statement. “That gut feeling” is a weird first sign. However, the reality is that your intuition is a strong force. I think we can all agree on that.
You can be sure that your intuition knows this guy is your soulmate before you do if he truly is.
You get excited when he pays you attention, feel totally at ease in his company, and are just overflowing with affection.
Put it down to fate. Say it was lucky. You guys are meant to be together for decades. You simply sense it.
#2. You Are Your True Self Around Him.
Many people alter the way they show themselves to the world based on how they believe they will be perceived by specific groups or institutions.
For example, my work behaviour differs significantly from my personal or social life. I know it’s probably the same with you.
Each of us attempts to adjust how we act and appear in different situations.
What about a soulmate connection? Honesty is what defines a soulmate connection.
Unlike other individuals, you cannot be inauthentic with a soulmate because you both appear to know each other inside out.
Aside from being comfortable in your personal space, you are both entirely open and honest with one another.
There is no place for secrets in a soulmate connection.
This means that after you’ve found your soulmate, you can be completely honest with yourself.
Because you know the other person will not condemn you, you may be unfiltered and true to them.
They can also assist you in releasing the baggage that has held you back and moving forward with your life.
#3. You Become Even More Aware of Yourself Around Him.
In a 2013 editorial for the New York Times, writer Tim Kreider said, “If we want the rewards of being loved, we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.”
Many of us want to be loved, but we don’t want to be vulnerable with others or dwell on our own identities. I know I struggle with vulnerability a little too often.
When you discover your soulmate or a kindred spirit, you can fix these two issues.
You find someone who truly understands you and doesn’t offer any judgment.
They can help you understand more about yourself, including your weaknesses, inconsistencies, and positive qualities.
In reality, those with whom you have a soul connection might reflect your attributes to you.
They can reveal many of the things you were reluctant to confront about yourself and help you improve.
#4. You Are Best Friends.
You tell him everything. He tells you about his deepest fears and insecurities.
You have each other’s back, no matter what.
Perhaps you were friends first, then lovers. Or your passionate sexual relationship has developed into a lovely friendship.
Whatever the case, soulmates are typically best friends who will go to any length for one another.
The bottom line is this.
You “get” each other on a deeper level than anyone you’ve ever encountered.
If you can state that this man is both your best friend and your romantic partner, there is a good possibility that he is your soulmate.
I have a friend who ended up marrying her best friend of almost 10 years. I suggest you reevaluate your friendship with that guy you call your best friend. He might just be “The One”
#5 You Recognize Him.
Want to know for certain if he is your soulmate? Are you currently in a relationship with your soulmate?
Let’s face it.
We can waste a lot of time and energy on people with whom we are ultimately incompatible. Finding a soulmate isn’t simple.
What if there was a method to eliminate all the guesswork?
I discovered a solution when researching… A trained psychic artist can create a sketch of your soulmate’s appearance.
A friend of mine used this method. Even though she was hesitant at first, a friend persuaded her to try it a few weeks ago.
She then knew exactly what he looked like. The crazy part is that she recognized him immediately.
You can get your sketch here if you wanna try this method.
#6. He Has Made You a Better Person.
Does this guy bring out the best in you? Is he the primary motivator for quitting those unhealthy habits?
Do you believe in yourself and what you can accomplish once you spend time with him?
If you can answer yes to these questions, I think this guy could be your true soulmate.
Soulmates bring out the best in each other. They balance each other’s weaknesses with their strengths. There is no getting around that.
If this individual inspires you to reach your goals and make the most of your life, you may say that he is “completing you.”
Your anxieties and insecurities are starting to fade, and he’s making you see your potential.
That’s something only soulmates can do.
#7. You Balance Each Other Out.
If you’re truly soulmates, you’ll probably discover that your weaknesses are your strengths. His shortcomings are…well, you get the picture.
Soulmates are supposed to be together. This person is destined to be with you because he can balance you out.
The truth is that at the beginning of any relationship, everything is new and thrilling. You love spending time together since you complement one another.
However, when things get more routine and settle into a groove, many partnerships end.
Why?
Because spending time with people whose personalities do not match and complement each other can be immensely frustrating.
What about soulmates? Soulmates differ.
Their personalities complement one another. If you complement each other’s personality, your differences will become your strengths.
You enjoy spending time together since you share nothing but refreshing energy.
For example, I am an introvert, and my soulmate is an extrovert.
While this is a simple example, it is effective since he does most of the talking, and you do the majority of listening.
You plan, whereas he is more “spur of the moment”.
He makes your life more enjoyable while you make his life more ordered.
This is what soul mates do. They complement each other to make their lives better.
#8. He Is Protective of You
If he is your actual soulmate, you can be confident that he is doing everything he can to protect you.
To earn your respect, he will take on the responsibility.
In fact, a new psychological hypothesis is currently gaining popularity. And it gets to the heart of whether two people are truly soulmates.
It’s known as the hero instinct.
What it comes down to is that a man wishes to consider himself as an everyday hero. He wants to be someone you respect. Not just an accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’.
I admit it sounds a little naive. Women no longer require someone to save them. They do not need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
And I could not agree more.
But here is the ironic truth. Men still need to feel like heroes. Because it’s ingrained in their DNA to seek out connections that make them feel like one.
If he truly is your soulmate, he will rise to the challenge and be your everyday hero. He will do seemingly minor things to get your respect.
However, you may need to ignite the flame to activate the hero’s impulse in him.
I suggest you watch this free video below to learn how to ignite your guy’s hero instincts. James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who initially coined the term, discusses the basic things you can do right now to activate this very natural making instinct.
When a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he becomes more caring, attentive, and committed to his long-term relationship.
And you’ll know you’re soulmates.
#9. You Are Both in the Same Stage.
You know how when you first start seeing someone, you like the early phases, but after a while, you realize you’re at different stages of life.
Maybe you’re not ready to settle down just yet, but they’ve already decided to buy a house in the suburbs with a large yard for the kids.
Or they’ve recently had a nasty breakup and want to take things slowly, whereas you’re ready to go all out nearly right away. Or like one of my past relationships where he was ready to get serious, but I hadn’t figured out what I wanted in life.
However, you and your soulmate meet at the same phase of life. You both want the same thing.
This is why everything is likely to work out: you both want to settle down, marry, and have children at the same time. There is no misunderstanding or unpleasant conversation about waiting till the appropriate time. This is it for both of you.
So, if you can see that you and your man are in comparable stages of life and want the same things in the future (marriage, two children, and a four-wheel drive), you can bet your bottom dollar that this guy is your soulmate.
When it comes to soulmates, timing is crucial.
#10. You Sense Each Other’s Pain.
Both of you share strong empathy.
You know if he is happy, unhappy, or in distress. It’s the same with him.
It’s almost as if you understand what it’s like to walk in each other’s shoes.
And you understand each other so well that the moment you see him, you know exactly what mood he is in.
What is the good news in this?
Because you know each other so well, you can easily move him from a bad mood to a good one. He can do the same for you.
When you can accomplish that, you know you’ve reached the next level of your relationship.
As previously stated, you balance each other out, sense his emotions, and understand him so well that you can easily get him out of a foul mood.
See Also: EMPATHY IN RELATIONSHIPS: Common Signs, Examples & Tips
#11. You Accept and Embrace Each Other’s Imperfections.
We all have flaws, and because we understand our soulmates so well, we can see their imperfections and flaws in broad daylight.
The kicker?
A soulmate will love and accept their partner’s shortcomings since they understand that it is simply who they are.
Nobody is flawless, and to be honest, you would not want to date someone who is perfect. It’d be kind of weird, am I right?
If you’re lucky enough to find your soulmate, you’ll learn that every trait has both positive and negative aspects.
It is the responsibility of every soulmate to always look for the positive, even when it looks to be negative on the surface.
For example, he may be a worrier, like me, but this also implies that he can prepare ahead and avoid risky circumstances.
Or perhaps he wants to live in the present moment, which is horrible for planning but fantastic for enjoying life and having fun.
#12. You’re Happy.
If you realize that you’ve been joyful and smiling all the time since you started the relationship, consider this one of the signs he’s your soulmate.
Perhaps you were struggling to find happiness before the two of you met, or perhaps you were perfectly satisfied, but after you began dating, you discovered that you were constantly in a good mood because he brings so much happiness into your life.
#13. You Lost Interest in Other Men.
You realize that you have little interest in other men because you are so satisfied with your existing relationship, implying that you are currently dating your soulmate.
When you’ve found your soulmate, you’ll be so involved in the relationship that you won’t notice other men, no matter how handsome they are. This I can relate to, they all just seem to fade away.
#14. Have Each Other’s Back.
If he supports and helps you fulfil your dreams, this is one of the telltale signs that he is your soulmate.
He would never urge you to abandon your dreams for him, nor will he mock you for setting big goals. He will want you to achieve your life goals, and he will be there to encourage you along the way.
#15. Appreciation
Rather than seeing each other’s eccentricities as weird or off-putting, you both appreciate and cherish them.
Potentially bothersome behaviours, such as dropping socks on the floor, will appear sweet when you are with your true love.
#16. Sense of Safety.
If you feel safe around him, as if he can protect you from everything, that is one of the indicators of a true soulmate.
You’ll never be afraid or anxious since he’s your defender.
#17. No Distrust.
You never doubt his love or fret that he no longer wants to be with you. You will simply know in your gut that he loves you.
#18. Vulnerability
You can be vulnerable around him, sometimes revealing the darkest aspects of yourself, and he will still accept and adore you. This means you won’t be frightened to vent to him or cry about anything that has affected you because you know you can express your feelings safely.
See Also: EMOTIONAL CONNECTION: Meaning, Signs & How to Build a Solid Connection
#19. The Relationship Appears Easy.
When two people are romantic soulmates, their relationship flows naturally since there is no conflict or drama. This is not to imply that arguments will never arise, but when they do, the two of you can quickly resolve them and move forward.
See Also: SIGN COMPATIBILITY: Cancer, Taurus, Gemini, Moon, and Capricorn
#20. Boyfriend=Bestfriend
One of the most powerful soulmate meeting signs is when your partner feels like your closest friend.
He “gets you” in a way that no other friend has. Your love is founded on a strong foundation of friendship.
#21. Work Through Tough Situations.
You can work through difficult periods in your relationship without giving up because you both want to be together and are prepared to put in the effort to stay together.
Even if you disagree or are going through a difficult time, you do not feel the need to leave. I think the best way I can explain this is with the phrase: “Ride or Die.”
See Also: RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY: How to Deal With & Overcome It (Detailed Guide)
#22. Unconditional Support.
A true soulmate will always support you in your endeavours, even if they don’t fully understand or share your enthusiasm. They will be your strongest supporters, encouraging and assisting you in pursuing your goals without expecting anything in return. Doesn’t the idea of that just thrill you?
#23. They Challenge You.
A soulmate relationship is not always dazzling.
He makes life exciting by challenging your beliefs, habits, and ways of thinking.
You’re intended to be with your soulmate because they help you grow and enhance your life, and their profound connection to you is enough to motivate you to take the first move.
They also serve as a reflection of yourself, your ideals, and how you live your life.
Whatever negativity, troubles, or anxieties you have will be right in front of you, ready for you to confront and overcome to become a better human being.
#24. You Get the Feeling You’ve Known Them For Longer Than You Have.
Soulmates have an odd habit of feeling as if they had always been around one another.
One or both of you will say that you feel as if you have known one other forever.
You’ll giggle about how lost you were without them, and you might even have flashbacks to earlier lives you shared.
#25. He Told You He Is Proud of You.
When you fall and feel like you can’t get back up, he’ll tell you that you’ve done your best and remind you that he’s honoured to be with you and proud of you, no matter what.
This is what soul mates do. He lets you know you are special to him.
He may be unable to express his true feelings, yet he will not hesitate to tell you how special and important you are to him.
Love in the form of words will come later, but by his actions, you can discover how much a soulmate cares about you.
When you ask for help, he rushes in. If you need something, he’s the first to volunteer. Most of the time, he doesn’t even need to know what you need him for: just ask him to come.
See Also: SIGNS OF AFFECTION: The Top 15 Signs in 2023 (Updated)
#26. He Seeks Your Help.
Even if he hasn’t told you yet, one of the surefire signs that he loves you and is your soulmate is when he goes to you for support when he needs it.
It’s difficult for guys to be vulnerable and admit when they need help, but if you’re his person, the one he turns to when he’s in trouble or feeling sad, you can bet he’s in love.
#27. When Disagreement Arises, You Compromise.
There’s no way around it: disputes can jeopardize the survival of any relationship.
But not a soulmate relationship.
Why?
Soulmate relationships are always willing to compromise to maintain harmony.
The facts are as follows:
Every relationship has some level of conflict. The way you address these disputes will influence the success of your relationship.
This is why you have established a conflict resolution method. You can even tally points if necessary. Most importantly, you are open and honest with each other when you believe one of you is being treated unfairly.
Finally, being honest is the only approach to address and solve the problem at hand.
#28. You Can Get Intense With Each Other.
Whether you’re agreeing on a hot topic or battling to the bitter end over something you believe in, you’ll notice that talks and interactions with your soulmate are always intense.
Many people who are unfamiliar with this type of engagement may find it scary and exhausting.
If you find yourself bewildered by someone, it may not be because you detest them but because you are deeply attached to them, and they could be your soulmate.
#29. You Respect One Another’s Need For Alone Time.
If you’re like me, then you understand how much I love my space. Sometimes, you just wanna enjoy your own company or be in your head all day. It’s a pretty nice plan however it can be difficult to tell someone you love that you need time apart, But if you’re soulmates, they’ll understand. They’ll also appreciate having some alone time for themselves.
#30. Neither of You Experiences Jealousy.
Your connection is so strong that you don’t feel frightened when one of you talks to the other sex, even if they hit you.
It’s all fine since nothing can break the solid connection you have.
#31. You Cannot Get Enough of Him.
You know you have a special bond with your partner when you can’t seem to get enough of him.
You’d like to spend as much time as possible near him, talking to him, or catching him out of the corner of your eye.
And you know he’s on the same page.
He enjoys snuggling up to you, smiling when you tell a terrible joke, and generally trying to be around you. You know what I mean…
You are both completely captivated by each other.
According to scientist Sally Hogshead, being fascinated by someone is a classic symptom of falling in love.
“Fascination and love both start in the limbic area of the brain, which also contains anger, pleasure, sadness, sexual excitement, and fight-or-flight. That is, when you are captivated by a person, experience, or even a product in the grocery store, you are almost in love. As far as your brain is concerned, attraction is not a choice.”
#32. There Is an Inexplicable, Profound Spiritual Connection Between Each Other.
The ancient Greeks believed that finding someone with whom you strongly connected was like discovering the second half of the original unified being that you were formed as.
It’s a lovely thought.
When you meet your soulmate, you’ll undoubtedly connect on a deep level.
What exactly does this mean?
It entails engaging chats, effortlessly flowing banter, and a desire to be near each other all the time.
Finally, you just know that your boyfriend has helped you mentally and physically, and you’re grateful to have him by your side.
#33. You Have No Doubts Regarding The Relationship.
After years of difficult relationships and assholes, you’ve finally stopped second-guessing your relationship. You’re not debating if you should break up with him.
These are the doubts many of us have had in previous relationships. We have all been there.
But with this guy, everything simply feels perfect. You feel safe and protected.
No breakup. There is no slowing down. It’s all about progressing together. This feeling of peace, in particular, was the major tell sign in my journey.
#34. You Fight Well
Look, no couple is immune to arguments. It happens in every relationship, even between soulmates.
However, how successfully you argue is the ultimate measure of your relationship.
If you can eventually find a productive resolution without tearing each other’s heads off, that’s a fantastic characteristic to have in a relationship.
If you’re soulmates, the last thing you want is to hurt each other, and because you listen carefully to each other, you virtually always come to a satisfactory finish to your heated arguments.
#35. You Love Each Other’s Families.
Loving his family as much as you love him is a great indication that you’re destined to be together.
Even if you don’t agree with everything his family says, you are extremely courteous and nice because you recognize their special link with your man.
Your man does the same for your family.
Because you’re so close, you understand how important each of your families is to one another. I personally wouldn’t want to be with a man who doesn’t love my family. I know you can relate.
How to Find Your Soulmate.
If you’ve read the signs but are still not persuaded that your boyfriend is your soulmate, he probably isn’t.
A soulmate is easily recognizable.
You have a connection unlike any other.
He just has eyes for you.
But don’t worry, you still have a chance to improve your relationship.
There is a significant chance that he is your soulmate, but he just hasn’t realized it yet. Until he does, you will not feel it.
You need to arouse his heroic instincts.
This is a subject I discuss in this piece because if your man is already protective of you, you’ve already set it off.
If not, this is your best chance to change your relationship for the better. You will not regret it.
All you have to do is arouse his hero instinct, and you will have the opportunity to be soulmates for life.
Does this sound too good to be true?
Of course, it does; the hero instinct is one of the most well-kept secrets in the relationship industry.
In his great new video, relationship expert James Bauer explains everything you need to know about this new concept and how you may apply it to improve your relationship life.
FAQs
How Do I Recognize My Soulmate?
When you meet your soulmate, you feel a deep and unique connection. It’s like two puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly. You experience an immediate connection, profound understanding, and emotional resonance. You communicate effortlessly, have unflinching trust, and share similar beliefs and life goals.
Meeting your soulmate can bring you enormous satisfaction, a sense of completeness, and a sensation of being understood like never before. It’s a partnership characterized by mutual support, growth, and a deep, enduring love that overcomes obstacles, making life together a wonderful journey.
Is He My Soulmate or Twin Flame?
Twin flame and soulmate connections are profound relationships in which both can express their real selves. Compatibility and a deep soul connection are essential components of every relationship. When soulmates and twin flames meet, there usually is instant identification. However, there are a few differences between these relationships:
1. Connection: In many traditions, a twin flame is said to signify a split soul. Twin flames show aspects of one another and may exhibit comparable behavioural characteristics. On the other side, soulmates are two souls that share a strong emotional connection. Soulmates are compatible but may have different personalities.
2. Relationship: Many people define a soulmate as a romantic soulmate or a life partner. A twin flame is typically a BFF, coworker, or artistic associate.
3. Stability: A soulmate is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and love wholeheartedly. Codependency between twin flames might result in a harmful relationship. Frequently, the twin flame trip ends in conflict because both partners see themselves reflected in the other, including insecurities and characteristics they loathe.
Keep in mind, however, that Twin flame and soulmate relationships can occasionally overlap. A person who fulfils both types of relationships is known as your “twin soul” or “mirror soul.” Twin flames and soulmates have many parallels; each strong bond brings out the best in one another, even during highs and lows.
Is He My Soulmate Astrology?
Many individuals are familiar with their zodiac sign and birth chart, but few are aware of the full range of information that this may provide.
Your astrological chart might help you find your partner. You can accomplish this by using your astrology house, zodiac sign, and birth chart nodes.
You may be familiar with the fundamentals of astrology, such as your Sun sign. That is certainly useful to know, but your Venus sign, which governs how you deal with and perceive relationships, as well as your other planetary placements, will provide you with the most information.
So, these are the four soulmate signs to search for in your astrology chart.
1. Identify and understand your natal chart positions.
To understand how all of the zodiac signs and planets interact, you must first understand your zodiac sign’s birth chart, which includes all of your astrological houses and planet placements.
It’s an easy task to carry out! You only need to know the day, time, year, and location of your birth. There are numerous free internet websites to use, as well as more in-depth applications such as Co-Star.
2. Check which sign is in your Seventh House.
When you receive the results of your birth chart, focus on your Rising sign, also known as your Ascendant. Your Descendant is on the opposite side of your Ascendant.
Your rising sign easily links with the sign opposite it, which may be found in your Seventh House. For example, a sensitive Pisces will always have a rational Virgo in the Seventh House. This is because Pisces and Virgo are completely different zodiac signs.
This is hardly surprising given that the saying “opposites attract” is written directly in the stars. (If you are an Aries, keep an eye out for Libras who come into your life).
You are bound to make connections through your Seventh House, so pay heed to the planets that reside there.
For example, your ruling Sun or Moon may appear in your significant other’s Seventh House.
So keep an eye out for shared characteristics because your potential partner and you are already more compatible than you may have realized.
3. Pay great attention to your and your partner’s placements on Mars and Venus.
Aspects are useful for determining how the planets are related to one another based on the degree to which their angles align. When Mars and Venus are on the same wavelength, it can imply a tranquil, joyful, and harmonious connection between the couple.
It is rather simple to determine the aspects of your chart. All you have to do is look at the degree of the planet dominated by a specific sign, which will be displayed as a number between zero and 29.
If your planets are in aspect, you will realize that you are on the path to a happy relationship. To be in aspect, there should be no more than five degrees of variance between the two charts.
For example, if one of your planets is at 20 degrees in one chart, the second chart should be between 15 and 25 degrees in order to be in aspect.
4. Examine the North Node of your Moon sign.
In astrology, the ecliptic depicts Earth’s orbit in relation to the sky, as well as the path of the Sun as it passes through the stars.
Here’s How To Tell If Someone Is Your Soulmate With A Simple TikTok Math Trick (Bonus!!)
Take your boyfriend or girlfriend’s age and add two zeros.
Subtract your birth year from the given number.
Add the number of the current year.
If that number includes both of your ages, the math and love gods consider you soulmates.
For example, if your partner is 25 and you are 23:
2500 minus 2000 = 500 plus 2023 = 2523 = Soulmates!
I tried this math challenge to see if my partner and I were soulmates, and it truly worked.
Of course, true math geniuses understand why this works — but we don’t want to spoil anyone’s fun.
Conclusion
Most of us have questioned at one time or another, “Is he my soulmate?” While it may be impossible to scientifically verify “Are soulmates real?”
Many individuals believe in the concept of soulmates and hope to discover that one particular person with whom they may form a strong, long-lasting bond. If you’re looking for a soulmate, the signs listed here can help.
See More:
- HOW TO FIND A SOULMATE: Best Foolproof Steps in 2023 (+ Astrology Tips)
- HOW TO FIND TRUE LOVE: Everything You Should Know
- HOW TO GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP: Best 2023 Techniques for Anyone
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