One of the most perplexing aspects of long-term relationships is evaluating when to end them. You may be totally torn on what to do because you’re emotionally involved, even though you know that a breakup is the best option. However, every circumstance is unique, but there are a few telltale signs that say it’s time to end a relationship. Here are a few to watch out for;
You Aren’t Too Excited to See Your Partner
You may be afraid of being alone, and you may even love your partner, but set those feelings aside for the time being.
Are you always ecstatic to see your special person each time they come around? Do you experience happiness, relaxation, or a good feeling of familiarity? Do they brighten the day for you?
Or Does it seem like a room darkens when your partner enters? Do you get upset when you see them? Do they seem to suck the joy out of your life the moment they turn up?
We all have bad days (or weeks), but if your partner doesn’t reliably bring you joy, there’s something seriously wrong with you. You may be clinging to the idea of the relationship denying the reality of the fact that you no longer want to be in it. At this point, it’s the smart thing to end the relationship before it gets way worse.
And trust me, it will…
Your partner’s actions have a negative impact on your life
Obviously, if there is some sort of violence occurring, you should start making plans to leave the relationship. If you’re having trouble letting go on your own, seek assistance from someone you trust.
However, often the issue is more subtle. Even if it isn’t intentional violence, the condition is always harmful. An instance could be when you’re trying to make ends meet by scrimping and saving, but your partner is addicted to shopping and spends all of your money. Any type of addiction, in fact, can result in unintended consequences for both partners.
If your partner refuses to stop and their actions are affecting your quality of life, you should seriously consider ending your relationship.
You realize you’re only with this person because you don’t want to be alone
Let’s pretend you had the power to rub a magic lamp and summon an attractive partner who would love you and stay with you forever. Will you feel confident enough to break up with your current partner?
If you answered yes, it’s possible that you’re only staying because you believe the person you’re dating is your only alternative. Not only is this not valid in most situations, but your fear of being single will make finding a more compatible partner much more difficult.
If this is the only reason you’re staying, it’s a clear indication the relationship is over. You may be going through the motions, but your motivation is desperation rather than love.
If you’re afraid of being single, leaving a bad relationship can be difficult at first. However, it is the right call.
Your relationship is preventing you from achieving a major life goal
Is it your life’s ambition to become an astronaut, but your partner will not accompany you to Mars? It’s possible that you’re both holding each other back.
Nobody is to blame, and often the problem can be solved by a compromise or innovative planning. If, on the other hand, something valuable to you is constantly put on hold due to your partner’s needs, frustration will gradually creep in. A glaring indication that you should end the relationship.
The partner seems to have lost interest
Is your partner getting tired of you? Have they been avoiding you or making excuses for you?
People who are really involved in the relationship would not ignore you or make excuses for not seeing you. Your partner may be leaving the relationship and denying it, or they may actually lack the confidence to tell you that it’s over.
If you think this is the case, the only thing you can do is express your concerns. Have a conversation with your partner and get a straight answer.
You Have a Lot of Stupid Arguments
When little things about the other person start to irritate you, it’s one of the most common indicators that the relationship is over. Do you have endless squabbles about household duties, where to eat lunch, and who gets to mow the lawn?
If you’ve been arguing and bickering about trivial matters, the underlying respect and love could be fading. True, in relationships, disagreements are inevitable, but when we have strong feelings for the other individual, we’re typically far more likely to let things go quickly.
You Make Excuses for Not Being Together
There’s a difference between having reasons to stay together and having excuses to stay together, which might seem counterintuitive.
Reasons aren’t usually needed to be clarified. They are so self-evident that you don’t even have to consider them. You love your partner and have a special bond with them, so there’s no need to second-guess yourself.
Excuses, on the other hand, are just what sound like lies you make up to justify your continued relationship.
Again, all relationships have ups and downs, and a strategy or two could help you get through a rough patch in your relationship. If, on the other hand, you find yourself making excuse after excuse year after year, you should end the relationship. It’s likely that it’s been over for longer than you know.
End a Relationship FAQs
How do you know if it's time to end a relationship?
Experts describe some of the telltale indicators that it’s time to let go:
- Your needs aren’t being met.
- You’re looking for those things from other people
- You’re afraid to ask your partner for more
- Your family and friends aren’t supportive of your relationship.
- You have a strong desire to remain with your lover.
What are the red flags in a relationship?
Excessive jealousy and a pattern of lying are red flags in a relationship. You should also be cautious of a partner who constantly criticizes or dismisses you. An inability to compromise is another huge warning signal; relationships should not be one-sided.
What is a good reason to end a relationship?
Cheating, infidelity, lying, refusing to change, and failing to acknowledge your partner’s needs when they come to you for support are all reasons to end a relationship. It’s okay to walk out if you’re drifting apart because you have nothing in common.
Why is it hard to break up with someone you love?
When you break up with someone you love, it’s almost always because of an irreversible problem. Perhaps you have different dealbreakers for how you want your life to look in the future, and the only way for your needs and goals to align is for you to split ways.